For this assignment, I went to a Consulting Fair in the business school, somewhere where I feel completely out of place. I didn't like being the other--being there made me feel uncomfortable and awkward. Everyone around me felt like they were trying to show everyone how competent they were and how comfortable they were there with high-profile consulting companies, and it made me feel kind of small and unimportant for being in a job I imagine future wealthy people would look down on. Even if that's not what they think, that's what it felt like they would think, since it's not as prestigious to be a teacher as it is to be a consultant. My instinctual response to being the other was to remain quiet with my head down, to not talk to people and just eat my BYU mint brownie in peace, which took forcing myself to suck it up in order to get over. However, I felt like I was wasting the time of the people there by talking to them because even if they want me to be a consultant, I don't think I really want to be a consultant. My second gut response was to slightly judge everyone around me for putting so much importance on something I don't find very valuable, especially because no matter how many times someone explains to me what consulting is, a part of me still doesn't believe it could be a real job, nor understands why they get paid so much to do what they do. I know that's bad and I got over those feelings quickly, but it is kind of a natural defensive reaction.
It gave me insight on what a student in my class might feel like if he (or she) thinks he's the other. They might stay quiet and out of sight as much as possible, and even slightly judgmental of all the people around them for being the way they are, or putting so much value on grades, for example, when they may not see it as being that important. It also made me realize that it might take a lot of work for me to help these students get on board with objectives and just the whole school thing in general if it is not something they see as valuable or relevant. I could get interested in consulting, but it would take a lot of time around people who love consulting and a lot of persuasion for me to be willing to try to go for it. This might be the same for these students. They might really just not see the point of turning in a worksheet or paper or taking a test, etc, if that is something their family and friends or cultural group does not emphasize. Though perhaps I might be a bit more trained in the culture of business in general since my dad is in business, I was still a bit lost sometimes, and wondered what the people from the consulting companies would even want to see. Similarly, if the students are not trained in the culture of school, it might be difficult for them to participate in school culture successfully. Although teachers say all they really want is student learning, there are a lot of smaller things they want from their students on a regular basis (sitting in seat, raising your hand in class, wanting learning more than just completion, etc) that a student unfamiliar with teacher/school culture could struggle to understand. Doing this assignment made me realize there are a lot of cultural and social cues that I take for granted that may not be easily understood by those in different cultures with different traditions.


